When people think about change, particularly change in their own life, they tend to brace themselves for some mighty effort: 'I really must change this, I cannot go on in the old way any longer!'
This is because the awareness of the need to change is mostly that something is wrong that needs fixing, sorting out etc. But real change is not like this. Real change begins 'inside' everyday events and actions. I often say that my mission is to spirtualise the everyday - it is inside the daily acts that we make that real change can begin - in small but powerful ways.
Let me give an example that one can easily dismiss but inside the example lies something quite profound. In my work as a coach/trainer I often would take an example like the subject of listening and say 'why, for what purpose do you listen?'
We all listen everyday but for what purpose do we listen? Mostly we listen alert to those things that we might need to latch on to that affect us, our situation, financial matters, our ability to profit from a situation or to have outcomes that we want but there are many other levels of listening beyond this.
Have you ever thought to listen with no expectation of outcome? To try and really listen to the person behind the words, the way they are orchestrating the words with tensions or their struggle or pain or aspirations.
Until you really hear what is speaking rather than identifying with who is speaking it is very difficult to actually respond at any depth to another person.
In this first insight into change what is being said is that change is a response to a new more elevated purpose than before and as you probaly noticed it does not require doing something other than what we normally do but doing something that we normally do from a new level of purpose... more to come.
This is because the awareness of the need to change is mostly that something is wrong that needs fixing, sorting out etc. But real change is not like this. Real change begins 'inside' everyday events and actions. I often say that my mission is to spirtualise the everyday - it is inside the daily acts that we make that real change can begin - in small but powerful ways.
Let me give an example that one can easily dismiss but inside the example lies something quite profound. In my work as a coach/trainer I often would take an example like the subject of listening and say 'why, for what purpose do you listen?'
We all listen everyday but for what purpose do we listen? Mostly we listen alert to those things that we might need to latch on to that affect us, our situation, financial matters, our ability to profit from a situation or to have outcomes that we want but there are many other levels of listening beyond this.
Have you ever thought to listen with no expectation of outcome? To try and really listen to the person behind the words, the way they are orchestrating the words with tensions or their struggle or pain or aspirations.
Until you really hear what is speaking rather than identifying with who is speaking it is very difficult to actually respond at any depth to another person.
In this first insight into change what is being said is that change is a response to a new more elevated purpose than before and as you probaly noticed it does not require doing something other than what we normally do but doing something that we normally do from a new level of purpose... more to come.
What you open up causes me to reflect upon and become a bit more concious of what it is I listen for and how I respond to what I hear; Most of the time I listen automatically and have an automatic response. But sometimes I listen to the frequencies, and respond from the "note" that resonates inside. Fx at work, I listen to hear if someone has a bright or uplifting story to tell (even a small detail) - rather than complaint and critisism - and it causes an uplift inside, with which I respond, in order to make the other person feel well or uplifted. It often feels like listening with something else than the ears, rather with the whole complex. Fascinating...
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